Why I chose to be the parent I am
I remember my parents giving me the curse “you will get back
three times the problems that you caused us!”
Nine years later I have to disagree. I started by having my daughter at
18. I listened to everyone’s advice but my own. I let doctors convince me I was
not good enough to make choices medically for my child and I let family tell me
how to fill in the other pieces. I did the cry-it-out method… I did the bottle
feeding… I did the path that most said was easy. I hated hearing my daughter
scream in bed and the proceed to vomit. I hated listen to her cry when I would
put her down and walk away. I was basically saying “ I have cared for you
enough, you handle your life on your own.” I am sickened by the memory. Two years after she was born I had my son. By
then I had the idea that I would stand up for my rights and raise my child the
way I wanted. At his birth I did not let him go far (even though I fought to
have him on my chest). I breastfed him even though they tried to shove bottles
into his mouth and I co slept against hospital policy. He was mine I didn’t
want anything but the best for him! He ended up being sick most of his infancy,
but our bond kept him strong. I had my youngest son when my oldest was 2 years
old. This time i knew the risks of circumcision, this time I was ready to turn
down the loads of vaccinations.. I continued to co-sleep, baby-wear and
breastfeed… my youngest is 10 months now and I am sure that all of my children
know that they are well loved.
Why did I choose to be the parent I am? Why do I co-sleep, breastfeed, delay
vaccinations, no circ, baby wear and lastly why do I attachment parent?
I see there is so much we are not teaching and doing with
our children.. I lived at a children’s home at one point in my life and saw the
product of a motherless and fatherless childhood. I saw how most of the
children were like little zombies. Most of them had no emotion and would fight
constantly. I swore to myself then that if I ever had children, they would know
I loved them! When my second child was born I did the exact opposite of the
world and saw that there is so much to be learned! That’s why I am what I am
and I believe what I believe ! I think that mutilating a baby boys penis is horrible!!! It is it rips him of his right to have a
normal and more pleasurable sex life. Moms you are cutting away nerves and
precious flesh!!! Don’t fight with me about religion and other reasons because
I know where I stand. I co-sleep next to
my sweet little ones.. I have a family Bed!!!
I know most would shove in my face that my kids are spoiled and I will
never get a night to myself and that I am risking rolling over on my infant
son.. I have done this before and I know that there is a safe way to co-sleep
and a not so safe way to co sleep and I take every precaution. I see how happy
my children are when they wake up.. They will smile and play and wake me and my
husband up!! There is nights when we
move them into the front so we can have some time to ourselves and when we have
our time we move them all back in!! I baby-wear! I love it !! I love holding my
son close to me! I love to be able to smell his sweet baby skin and I am sure
he loves the warmth and cuddles.. He screams at the end of the day when I take
him out. He loves to be close to mommy!!
I do not allow my children to have multiple vaccines; I have delayed my
children’s vaccinations! I do not believe a child should be stabbed by 7
needles and injected with loads of toxins in one sitting!! I breastfeed!!!! I love the closeness of it
all. I love knowing that my infant son will be healthy and have a lower risk of
diabetes and being overweight. Lastly I am a AP ( attachment parent) . I love
the fact that my children will know my love and not my voice.. I am glad my
kids will learn my love with hugs instead of my distaste with spankings. I want
them to know that the world may be dark and mean , but as a mom I can bring
them love and comfort!!
Why did I choose this…. Why would I go against the norm?
Because the norm is not working and our world is slowly
slipping … here is to a better world for our babies..!!!
Written by Mary Kaitlyn Richardson
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